In Room 41

We often hear these three words FORGIVE AND FORGET and a lot of us struggle with the actual meaning because it seems difficult to reconcile. I mean how do you forget an offence when the human brain is wired to remember emotionally charged events. Well in my opinion, Forgiving is letting go of wrong and resentment while Forgetting is still managing to look out for the offender's best interest regardless of what has transpired between the both of you and not seek ways to harm or cause that person pain. However in all of this remember to look out for yourself because Jesus in his infinite wisdom said "love your neighbour as yourself" not more than yourself . Release yourself and that person by letting go of all bitterness and resentment not withholding any good if ever in a position to help but most importantly not at your expense.  For instance a friend you accommodated ended up sleeping with your wife or husband and things ended bitterly between the both of you.  This frie...

There is a saying by Alan Laken, " Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now" If you are stuck in a financial rut just now with no income, you may find these steps helpful. To successfully change your financial situation, you must first learn to take responsibility. You have to own the process of  turning your financial life in the right direction by taking deliberate actions. Step 1 Get Immediate income - By this I mean a job any job so long its legal and not detrimental to your health. Now is not a time to be selective, looking for the perfect job or to follow ones passion, this is about being resourceful making short term sacrifices for immediate income in order to secure the future. Step 2 Manage the Income - learn how to efficiently allocate your scarce resources by budgeting. Get a pen and write down how much in total you earn and all the necessary expenditure you have to make. Rule of thumb - allocate about 70% to all yo...

The first step in managing/getting out of debt is getting your head out of the sand. Face your debt, list all you owe and how much you owe, then critically analyse how you got where you are in the first place. It might be worth breaking some habits. Prioritise your debt and work your way through the list striking off as you go along. The reason this is important is because it boost your moral and help you stay on track. Some debt are urgent and must be dealt with ASAP or they cause you further problems for instance your house rent while others may be important but not urgent e.g. the car loan, so you sit down with a pen and paper and formulate a strategy.   

  Certainly nobody would pat their partner on the back for cheating on them, so what do you do after you have cheated on your partner, but really sorry you did in the first place and filled with all the regret in the world? do you let the cat out of the bag knowing it may cause problems which might have long term effect or just leave it in there hoping no one ever knows. (big conundrum) The experts say good and healthy relationships are built on honesty and transparency, and keeping secrets especially ones that could have an impact on your partner could be detrimental because it breaks trust if found out, and trust is principle in a relationship. On the other hand being too honest might not be the best because sometimes you need to keep some information to your self in order to protect your partner and the love you share. If you are confident the cat will never be let out of the bag, and it was just a moment of silliness that got you in that mess, it might be wise to...

The blaring sound of the alarm sprung Me up from bed....as I looked at the clock to prove it wasn't 6:00 a.m yet...A rude shock met My eyes, the alarm was right.I needed to leave bed, and start the day... I tapped twice on the bathroom door gently, but got no response, so I pushed it open as it was slightly ajar, I eased Myself, and headed for the living room, there was a certain calm and quiet..nobody, just the T.V showing an old episode of Her favorite Soap opera... The kitchen was the only place left, after what transpired last night it would be a waste of valuable seconds looking in that direction..So I lazily walked back to the room, picked My phone from the bed, in a flash it caught My eyes, a little note beside My pillow.

Totally bonkers

Someone please hear his cry. 

Brooklyn Beckham 21 has sparked rumours that he is already married to his fiancee Nicola Peltz 25 after being snapped with what appears to be a wedding ring on his finger.   The happy couple announced their engagement in July of this year dating for just eight months.  It now looks as though they have already become Mr& Mrs after Brooklyn was spotted  with something resembling a wedding ring on his ring finger. In a photo posted to her Instagram story on Friday, Brooklyn’s left hand had a gold band on his wedding ring finger while embracing Nicola’s hand.  The Bates Motel actress didn’t leave a caption with the cute photo but it left fans speculating whether it was suggesting the couple had already tied the knot. 

Nick Cannon has thrown his support behind Kanye West in the upcoming presidential election, stating he’d be happy to vote for the rapper.  Kanye, 43, hopes to take on President Donald Trump and Democratic candidate Joe Biden ahead of the election in November. 

The policing watchdog in the UK is set to look into concerns over the arrest of a black woman after she was held on the ground by multiple officers outside a shop in Hertfordshire following an altercation at a jewellery shop.

Ian Brackenbury Channell was born in the United Kingdom but relocated and settled in New Zealand in the 1970s, where he became known as The Wizard.  Over the years he has become known as Christchurch’s official wizard. As if to reinforce how serious he is, he even held a New Zealand driver's license issued to The Wizard, although he says he hasn't officially changed his name.   For decades he became a fixture in the city. Always    on the paved square in front of Christchurch's cathedral, where he pontificated on his life theories, wore wizard robes and became such a well-known figure that he earned himself    four out of five on Trip Advisor rating.  Ian now 87 spends less time in the public eye. He is looking for a successor and appears to have found one in 39-year-old Ari Freeman, who teaches guitar and fronts a psychedelic funk band.  As he and Freeman sit at at a table outside a sunny, inner-city cafe, a middle-aged cyclist calls out to ...

Simon Cowell was rushed to hospital this weekend following an accident with his electric bike, it has been confirmed. 

Simply adorable 

This Chinese father supports his whole family by carrying dozens of pigs  🐖  every day to the market, each one weighing more than 300 lbs, he has done this for at least 10 years.  His life story earns a great deal of applause for his hard work and dedication.

Investigators in Lebanon probing the deadly blast that ripped across Beirut are now focusing on possible negligence in the storage of tonnes of a highly explosive fertiliser in a waterfront warehouse, while the government ordered the house arrest of several port officials. The cause of Tuesday's explosion is not immediately clear, but officials link the blast to some 2,750 tonnes of confiscated ammonium nitrate that had been stored in a port warehouse at the port for six years.

In the footage a nanny trying to shield children under her care from the impact.  follow the story

Inspiring eh? May just be all needed to sweep him/ her off their feet. 

The remote Scottish island - The Isle of Rum which lies off Scotland’s west coast is seeking interested people to apply to live in new houses being built in a bid to expand her community.  The homes are based in Kinloch, the only village on the remote island, which currently has a population of about 30. 

Born in 1910 in Portland Maine, Ruthie Tompson was just 8 when the Spanish flu pandemic broke.  While her memories of that cataclysm are thin ("I was young at the time"), she's spoken of wearing a mask, amid crowds of others doing the same, during celebrations that marked the end of World War I.

A 35 year - old man named as Edward Harrison from Glasgow flew into rage as he turned on his girlfriend Frances Ferguson at her home in Glasgow’s Blackhill in April after believing she broke the government’s imposed lockdown rules to be with other men.  He trashed her car before attacking three police officers when they turned up to tackle him.

Engineers and researchers at MIT and Brigham and Women's Hospital have designed a new type of face mask that could    potentially be a game-changer. In a laboratory setting, the prototype worked as well as a N95 respirator at filtering out virus-containing particles.

The NHS has been ordered to pay £37m in compensation to the parents of a brain-damaged child after one of the country's leading hospitals admitted it was at fault in a maternity negligence claim against it.  The reason for the award is because the child at the centre of the £37m payout, who cannot be named for legal reasons suffered brain damage at birth due to maternity staff at the NHS trust not spotting he was in the breech position - meaning feet or buttocks first. This should have been picked up before labour but once midwives recognised what was happening and his heart rate began to drop, his mother was rushed to surgery for an emergency caesarean section. The delays in being born meant he was starved of oxygen for too long and suffered permanent brain damage, leaving him with complex disabilities and needing two carers during both night and day. Guy's and St Thomas' NHS Foundation Trust has admitted mistakes in how the boy’s birth was handled in 2013 which consequen...

Keira Bell said the care she received for gender dysphoria, a condition where a person experiences distress due to a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity, steered her towards medical treatment. Ms Bell, who used to identify as a boy, was 15  when she went to the Tavistock Centre in London. She said after "roughly three sessions" she started receiving hormone blockers.

Its no longer news Princess is married.   About 20 close friends and family including Beatrice's parents, Sarah Ferguson and Prince Andrew attended the socially distanced ceremony, which was officiated by The Reverend Canon Paul Wright and The Reverend Canon Martin Poll.  Prince Andrew put the Epstein saga behind him  and proudly walked his daughter down the aisle.

The  government of Hong Kong     is drafting tighter measures to weed out imported coronavirus patients amid a third wave of local     infections which is stretching her hospitals and quarantine facilities. 

Amazon.com Inc. sent out emails requiring its hundreds of thousands of employees to remove the TikTok app from company mobile devices due to unspecified security risks. 

The U.S. is "looking at" banning TikTok and other Chinese social media apps, Secretary of State Mike Pompeo said during an interview on Fox News on Monday. 

Former Labour MP Eric Joyce has pleaded guilty at Ipswich Crown Court to making an indecent photograph of a child. The former shadow minister, from Worlingworth, Suffolk, was arrested in November 2018. Joyce quit the Labour Party to serve as an independent MP for Falkirk in 2012 before stepping down ahead of the 2015 general election.

Halle Berry has pulled out of the running to play a transgender man in a upcoming untitled film after social media backlash. The news that Berry was considering playing a transgender man in a yet to be titled film was met with a wave of crticism on social media with people highlighting the ongoing problem in Hollywood of a cisgender actor playing a transgender person

A man has been arrested after two paramedics were stabbed in Wolverhampton. They were attacked after attending a callout to check on the welfare of a man in Stephens Close at about 12.15pm on Monday. A statement from the West Midlands Ambulance Service said: "Shortly after arrival, the crew used their emergency alert to say that they had been stabbed.

Telepictures can confirm it’s untrue,' reps for the talk show host's production company told the New York Post on Wednesday following rumours that The Ellen  DeGeneres show might be canceled' amid sagging ratings and multiple reports of unkind off-camera behaviour the past three months. 

The UK government has published new coronavirus guidelines for weddings in England which includes washing of hands before exchanging rings and banning large receptions. T he advice for England states that no more than 30 people should attend a wedding ceremony from July 4 and social distancing rules must be obeyed. 

This Crazy loud vivacious bold beautiful and super talented legend was born in 1948 and is a British Jamaican.  She has featured in over 20 movies and modelled for some of the biggest names in the fashion industry.  She is the big sister  to Noel Jones a popular Jamaican-American minister and senior pastor of the city of refuge church in Gardena, California which has about 17,000 members and was formally the Greater Bethany Community Church 

Ron  who was one of the biggest names in pornography and featured in more than 2,000 films dating back to the 1970 has been charged with raping three women and sexually assaulting a fourth, prosecutors say. Mr Jeremy, whose real name is Ronald Jeremy Hyatt, stands accused of raping a 25-year-old woman at a house in West Hollywood, according to a statement from Los Angeles County District Attorney Jackie Lacey.   In 2017 he told rolling stone magazine he had "never and would never rape anyone". If convicted, he faces up to 90 years behind bars.