Certainly nobody would pat their partner on the back for cheating on them, so what do you do after you have cheated on your partner, but really sorry you did in the first place and filled with all the regret in the world? do you let the cat out of the bag knowing it may cause problems which might have long term effect or just leave it in there hoping no one ever knows. (big conundrum)
The experts say good and healthy relationships are built on honesty and transparency, and keeping secrets especially ones that could have an impact on your partner could be detrimental because it breaks trust if found out, and trust is principle in a relationship.
On the other hand being too honest might not be the best because sometimes you need to keep some information to your self in order to protect your partner and the love you share.
If you are confident the cat will never be let out of the bag, and it was just a moment of silliness that got you in that mess, it might be wise to deal with the guilt of your actions and move on instead of letting a moment of indiscretion destroy what may have taken a lot of sacrifice and commitment to build.
Some people are very emotional and can feel hurt deeply making it very difficult for them to forgive, so if you are spiritual and there is genuine repentance in your heart, go on your knees ask the Lord to forgive you, heal you and protect your relationship, that way you protect your partner from being bitter and unforgiving, assuming you know him or her to hurt easily and deeply. Moreover if you have kids between you, its definitely worth thinking about how telling your partner about your indiscretion will affect them.
However if you cheated because of longstanding issues in your relationship, it might be worth talking to your partner about it even if you are sorry and repentant, because unless the reason why you cheated is thrashed out between the both of you, you will most definitely do it again, and the more you cheat, the higher the chances of being found out, which could result in permanent damage to your relationship. Something to be worried about if you genuinely care about preserving your relationship despite the challenges you both might be currently facing.
Have an open and honest conversation with yourself about why you cheat and talk to your partner about your fears or insecurities, seek help if necessary and remember Maturity is the ability to control ones emotions and reason logically.
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